Well, I know of physcual punishment in Islam, but in most western countries that is a crime. Besides, if you need to use violence against your wife, then you have not a secure personality, you are failing as her protector, you are weak. If you are a real man, you not even need to shut her, she will obey you because you are a real man, you have to show that you are a real family head, you have to show a serious strong personality, a good provider, a good protector, then she will follow your rules if you want.