am not a muslim, am "Drooz", and yes spanking in very much cases saves the marriage, espesiallyif used wisly.It is meant to correct the wife's behaviour, not to insult her.I use it with my wife when ever it is needed for major conflicts only.It should be painful to avoid any sexual aspect.Proper spanking may leave marks on buttocks, but at the same time not hard to cause injuries.My wife ofcourse hate it like anyone hates any punishment, but she accept the concept of it like anyone accept the concept of punishment.I and her were raised in our local culture where spanking wifes is no more than required discipline to keep a healthy family in order.I experienced it myself when i was youg by my parents, so did my wife was being spanked by her parents when she was young.I saw it being used with my mother, by my father, so did my wife saw the same between her parents.The bottomline that spanking is usefull if used only when needed and counducted probablyIt is a matter of cultural values that makes you see spanking as corrective action or degrading behaviour.